10 Fundamentals for an Authentic Life


10 Fundamentals for an Authentic Life

We live in a fast-paced world. Books, advertisements, and self-proclaimed productivity experts all seem united in their message. Do more. Be more. Achieve more.

It can be easy to believe that your worth is based on how much you get done in a day. Social media invites us into a competition, telling us to hustle, get s**t done and live our lives in constant motion.

For mums, it can feel like the bar is too high. Everyone else is winning but you.

Other people’s kids are better behaved than yours. All those other mums have organised homes and cook everything from scratch. Whatever they touch has the golden glow of Pinterest-worthy perfection.

For writers, there are all the people boasting about finishing their in record time. They finish their books in a month, or less! Someone even wrote and self-piblished published within a day!

How are the rest of us mere mortals ever supposed to keep up? And I can’t help wondering at the quality of words knocked out so fast.

Life is not a competition; it’s an adventure

From a very young age, we can get the message that life is a competition. There are winners and losers. And no one wants to be a loser.

Everything is a race to the top. There can be only one winner and second best is never good enough.

But here’s the thing. When everything is a competition then no one wins. We may get to taste success sometimes, but no one can win at everything all the time.

Those Pinterest-worthy mums? Scratch the surface and you’ll find they are not as perfect as we all seem to want to believe.

And perfectionism is not an ideal any of us should aim for. The reality is that those who try to be perfect never feel like they are good enough.

Words to Live By: Introducing the Slow Path

In the midst of all the noise and busy-ness I want to invite you to slow down. Ask what is really inportant to you? How can you pursue an authentic, meaning filled life?

The following ten principles came out of some coaching sessions I did last year. The Slow Path is a phrase from a Doctor Who episode. It reflects the fact that the meaningful things in life often take time.

When we go to fast and get too busy we can forget our own core values. The transformation of heart, mind and spirit which will open us up to the life we were made for will not take place.

Introducing “The slow path: 10 Fundamentals for an authentic Life”.

1. Enjoy the Journey.

2. Don’t let fear do the driving.

3. Trust you are on the right path.

4. Failure is one step closer to success.

5. Stay open, curious and flexible.

6. Feed imagination, creativity and your mind.

7. Treasure the questions.

8. Believe in yourself and the future.

9. The little things are the big things.

10. Love is a verb.

Over the next few weeks I will elaborate on these fundamentals. I hope you’l come back to read more!

My friend Charlotte Marillet created a beautiful poster to accompany this series. Please enter your email in the box below to get your copy.

I love the way she interpreted my words through her illustration!


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  • Just brilliant, I wholeheartedly agree with your ten fundamentals 🙂

    • Kamsin

      Thank you.

  • This post is *such* a pleasure to read. I’ve been caught up in (yet another) frantic day at work today and I’m glad I took a moment out of the madness to look at this and remind myself what’s really important. Looking forward to hearing more as you unpack the fundamentals.

    • Kamsin

      Thank you. It’s so easy to get caught up in other people’s agendas about how to use our time. So important to slow down and make choices based on what matters to us as individuals.

  • Those are great fundamentals! Great ones to follow. xx

    • Kamsin

      Thank you. These are ideas which have been recurring themes in my life. It’s exciting to put them all in one place.

  • I seriously NEED to follow this advice. Thank you! #dreamteam

    • Kamsin

      Thanks for your comment. I hope you’ll be able to pop back when I upload the in-depth content for each of my fundamentals.:-)

  • Absolutely agree with you on those fundamentals. Looking forward to reading the more detailed posts. 🙂

    • Kamsin

      So your comment turned up in the spam folder. I’ve not had any spam-y comments yet but why must it be so over-zealous? Clearly you are not spam! lol.
      And thanks for the comment.:-)

  • Loved reading this, it’s too easy to get caught up in the need to do everything, all at once! Great list to follow, look forward to reading more x

    • Kamsin

      Thank you:-)

  • Oldhouseintheshires

    I have just had a teacher training day in how important failure is to the process of learning and I think we forget that. I love your post and so agree with it all especially the part that the journey is important. Thank you. #dreamteam

    • I don’t know about you but I always learn more from the things I fail at than when I succeed. We need to change how we think about failure and what we teach our kids too! Awesome you’re getting training on that!!!
      Thank you for taking the time to comment.

  • I’ve recently had surgery and for the past few weeks my life has changed from living at 500MPH to a grinding halt. I’ve read books, relaxed and had cuddles with my little on the sofa, and generally found huge joy in the little things. It’s made me think hard about how much of my previous pace I’m willing to pick up again now that I’m recovering. I’ll look forward to reading more from this series. Thanks for linking to #DreamTeam x

    • I’m sorry to hear you needed surgery but good that you are finding the positives in having to slow down. Sometimes it’s just about the different seasons in life. But we can miss out on the important things sometimes if we go too fast all the time.
      Thanks for commenting.:-)

  • Burnished Chaos

    This is so true. I write a ‘Words To Live By’ series and have covered a few of these points. It’s so important sometimes to just slow down and take stock. Those things we are stressing over and racing around to complete, do they really matter? It’s the little things in life that truly make a difference x

    • I like the sound of words to live by…actually these 10 fundamentals came out of a short course I did by that very name!
      Thank you for commenting.:-)

  • Nige

    Fab read yes believe in yourself I have lived my life like that Thank you for linking to #ThatFridayLinky Please come back next week

  • Mindful Mummy Mission

    Ooooh I absolutely love this! I am going to tell by 6 year old son ‘life is not a competition, but an adventure’ tonight! He really needs to hear this at the moment! I am so pleased to have discovered your blog on #thesatsesh

  • Lucy Fisher

    #thesatsesh YES I WILL KEEP RETURNING TO READ MORE…hope you keep linking, this post is like 10,000 of my posts all in one. Its the 2 in 1 Shampoo of blogs and i adore it, its got my mind racing, which is ironic as it was all about slowing down. love this – big fan 🙂